Why Does Life Have To Be So Hard? When you find yourself asking that question, you need to know that He hasn't abandoned you. He is right there, wanting to help you, direct you, sustain you and get this: He wants this trial to change you. He is in your trial right now and He can use it to accomplish great things. Whether it is physical, relational, economic, emotional or circumstantial, God said that we can expect trials. The trials that God allows have purpose; they can change your conduct and refine your character. Find God’s purpose in your pain and don’t let bitterness, unbelief or discouragement rob you of the treasure God is refining in you.